The Blindspot of a Love Triangle

A love triangle is a romantic relationship involving three people, typically with one person being pursued or romantically involved with two others. Though love triangles are a popular trope in many books often adding emotional complexity and tension to the story, in real life, they are a lot more complex and these emotional complexities are characterised by intense feelings of confusion, jealousy, and heartbreak.  From another viewpoint, we can say it's a kind of situation that often involves unreciprocated feelings, overlapping relationships, or an individual being torn between two partners they love and want to be with. Wahala!!

For what it's worth, the dynamics of a love triangle often revolve around choice, loyalty and many a time, desire which doesn't always reflect genuiness except gratification to the point where it creates tension and emotional conflict between the chaser and the "chasee" (that's if their conscience isn't seared yet). Believe it or not, many of the love triangles of now--like the men can cheat women can't nonsensical belief--are consciously created by players to provide a terrain for their amorousness and how much this has been normalised in today's society is another topic entirely. 

Annoyingly, these decision makers --the chasees-- often end up with the wrong ones. A while ago, I came across a thread on X and it's basically about a girl who had two people chasing after her at the time. One was fantastic and aggressive in his pursuit and being the player that he was, he did everything right but he was fake. The other chaser was genuine but too "low value" such that he didn't fit the picture of her kind of man. He was the unaware partner who didn't know he was in a love triangle. So, long story short, she went with the player and got dumped after two months. He had won the trophy! Now, here's the funny part. After the break up, she reached out to the "low value" guy and asked if they could start afresh. If na you, wetin you go do?

There is so much emotional chaos today in the society because of how everyone's gaze has shifted from what is important and should be to what isn't important. Hence, many romantic realities are built on fantasies. Albert Einstein said the intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift. To be honest, the advantages of a love triangle before a relationship is enormous of course, but the blindspot is where the problem is.

Many a time, for genuine seekers of romance, love triangles are formed unconsciously probably through  one party's weakness to let go. Let's face it: all relationships end, good or bad but when you refuse to let go for whatever reasons you have, then you might get entangled in one bad roller-coaster romance. 

Like the situation I cited the other time, another blindspot of a love triangle is wrong decision. When a person is involved with two or more people at a time, the probability of making a terrible emotional error is high. It's so bad to the point that a heightened  connection may be established with the wrongest of them since it's a game of may the best player win.

Indecision is another blindspot. In this case, one party may be romantically conected to two or more parties where one might be a long term partner and the other a newbie that brings excitement and new experiences. At this point, there's so much internal conflict and the ability to choose becomes a problem.

There are many other blindspots of a love triangle like emotional affair (developing an emotional connection with another person while in a relationship) that can stealthily overtake a naive mind but the ability to know or identify when one starts forming will help guide you to make all the right decisions.

By Olumide Labulo